Why do I always end up alone

Syel · 26 October 2026

It's late, the flat is quiet, and you wonder why it's always you who ends up with nobody.

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And if it's the question that keeps circling, there's often a small move nobody sees. You put your coat on before the night is over. You write "go without me, no worries". You let the group chat go quiet and say nothing. Each time it's discreet, polite, reasonable. That way of not being a bother, I find it touching.

Maybe underneath there's a sentence: better to leave than to see that nobody holds on to me. But nobody sees the door close. The others figure you want some peace, so they let you be. And the one moment someone could have said "stay", you were already gone.

That's the cost: nobody loses you, but nobody ever gets the chance to choose you.