Why do I keep attracting younger men

Syel · 23 October 2026

He's in his twenties, he asks what's for dinner, and you already have the answer, plus Monday's dentist and the rent date in your head.

It starts light. He's funny, he looks at you like you've figured everything out, and it feels good to be looked at like that. Then you catch yourself booking, reminding, deciding for two. Nobody asked you to. The role was empty, and you stepped into it without thinking.

What if that's the thread: next to someone younger, nobody expects you to need anything. You're the steady one, the one who knows. It's a relief.

It costs something too, a little each time. On the night you're the one who wants to be looked after, there's no one to tell without everybody having to change places.